Chosen Family: “a chosen family is a group of individuals who deliberately choose one another to play significant roles in each other's lives. One definition of chosen family is a group of people to whom you are emotionally close and consider 'family' even though you are not biologically or legally related.” (source)
Episode 7 of Kaddish will be a listener co-created episode about mourning chosen family, the family you have discovered in life, and mourned in their passing. We want to hear the stories of if you found place and status among biologically related mourners, how you explained the magnitude of the loss to others, the ways in which your community came together.
The means by which we create family systems that nurture, protect, and sustain are holy, so too the way we mourn them.
We believe that our collected knowledge holds so much potential healing, and so for this episode we’ll be weaving together your stories. Below are instructions to record the clearest sound possible, and how to send in! By sending a clip in, either via the voicemail or through email, you’re consenting to having your story used on the air. All recordings are needed by Monday April 10th.
Thank you so much for sharing your story with Kaddish listeners.
Recording device: if you have a phone with a voice memo option, use that! If you don’t, calling 240-KAD-DISH from a place with a clear signal works.
If you’re in the Philadelphia area, please connect with Ariana at firstname.lastname@example.org to attempt recording in person.
Find a closet, quiet room, or car to call from to minimize outside noise.
Speak clearly into the recording device! Don’t worry about pausing to re-read the questions, we’ll edit that with the magic of radio.
If you record on your phone, email it to email@example.com
Questions? Please email Ariana at firstname.lastname@example.org
Please answer as many of the following questions as you’re able.
What is your name?
Where are you calling from?
What is the name of the chosen family member you are remembering?
How did you meet them? At what moment did they become family?
What does chosen family mean to you?
What is the story of their dying?
How did you respond to the news initially?
Did you attend any ritual to mark their passing? How did it feel?
Did you create personal rituals to mourn them?
What has been the hardest part of mourning a family member that is non-biologically related to you?
What resources do you wish you had in the mourning process?
What rituals, readings, music, helped you in your mourning?
What advice do you have to others?
Again, thank you so much for your generosity. May the memory of your loved one be for a comfort and a blessing.